screwup: BDSM for trans people, genderqueers and their friends, presents...

Self Discipline and Remote Control: Solo and Remote Play

New Day and Time!
Saturday, April 11, 2009 from 6:00 to 8:00 PM
Femina Potens, 2199 Market Street (at Sanchez Street), San Francisco

Whether you are too busy to meet in person, thousands of miles apart, or prefer to avoid the risks of in person play, remote play is a great way to create or maintain a hot connection. Solo play is a great way to practice techniques in a low pressure situation, learn your own responses, and show yourself a good time. They can be substitutes for playing with a lover you can touch, a safer sex alternative a, chance to try an edgy fantasy, or just another way to enjoy yourself. Playing alone and playing across distance both require imagination, attention to detail, and safety precautions that are different than an in person playdate. We'll discuss and in some cases demonstrate:

-Preparation and negotiation
-Safety concerns
-Ideas for enhancing connection
-Realtime long distance play: Phone sex, IM, text messages,
-Dirty long distance gifts: Email, letters, postcards, photos, video, packages
-Topping or dominating yourself
-And more!


B/T (aka Bequi) has been topping themselves for over 8 years and practicing remote play regularly for the last year. They have played privately for most of their sexual life and worked as a BDSM professional for 5 years. B/T has taught/facilitated screwup programs on disability and kink, rope bondage, and gender role play.